Without further ado, I give you this gem from Lady Gaga...
Here's the thing - I've done both those things. And I've also taken a third road. And in the end, each of those choices by themselves led me nowhere, but together they led me to a pretty damn good place - that being right here, right now.
First I married Ex, who gave me the impression that he wanted the same things out of life. At that time my dream was to return to Orlando and to Disney, to work my way up and make something of myself at that company. Unfortunately he had never really wanted to move back to Orlando, and had hoped that I would change my mind about doing so. And you know what? For a while I did ignore my dream of going back to Disney, and instead followed Ex to Lynchburg...but after a miserable year or so there, I stepped back and realized that if I didn't at least try to pursue a career with Disney, I'd regret it forever.
So I applied for a restaurant management job, received an offer, packed up my car and moved back to Orlando - by myself. I knew that this would possibly mean the end of my marriage; I wasn't even sure if I was ready to accept that. But I did it anyway.
|Chunky brunette Tara. NEVER AGAIN. Well..maybe I'll go brunette again just for the hell of it. Maybe.|
|Hanging out at Islands of Adventure with some of my amazing cast members (and my friend Mia)|
So I went back to Lynchburg. And then I followed Ex to South Carolina...and fell in love with the Greenville area even as I realized how very much I needed to leave him.
Point being, if I'd never followed Ex in the first place (or the second place), I likely never would have found this city that I love so much!
I mean, come on...it's a beautiful, awesome place! :)
And consequently, some years later I even convinced a guy - Steve, of course - to follow me here to Greenville. I wanted to be here, and in my mind that was that. Staying in Connecticut forever was never really a choice to me, regardless of how I felt about him...so as you can see, in the end...all of that following turned out the best for everyone (well, except maybe for Ex, but yeah I could give less of a you-know-what about that, ha). Because the thing is...everyone is different, every life is different, and sometimes even the crappy choices can lead to the best things.
Plus, not every woman can be Lady Gaga ;)